Ask Amy: Why do people say these things at funerals?

Published Mon, 23 Dec 2024 13:05:12 GMT

Ask Amy: Why do people say these things at funerals? Dear Amy: I lost my husband almost a year ago.After the funeral a lot of promises were made by my friends and fellow church congregants that would always be there for me in whatever way I needed.Those promises were sincere, I’m sure, but the majority just went on with their lives. I understand this.My question is: Why make these promises if you can’t follow through?Honestly, I would have appreciated a phone call to see how I’m doing, someone dropping in to visit, or inviting me out for coffee. I’m all alone all week until my son visits on the weekend.It’s been a lonely year.Lonely WidowDear Lonely: I’m so sorry for this loss, and certainly for the loneliness that has followed.Oftentimes people make these promises after a loss, but don’t follow through in part because after the structured memorial events are over, we don’t seem to have any cultural roadmap for what to do next.People are wary and uncomfortable navigating another person’s loss, but as you point out, it’s actually easy!...

3 injured in Montgomery Co. house fire

Published Mon, 23 Dec 2024 13:05:12 GMT

3 injured in Montgomery Co. house fire Three people were taken to the hospital, one with serious injuries, after a home in Montgomery Village, Maryland, caught fire Easter Sunday, Montgomery County Fire and EMS officials said.It happened just before 1 a.m. in the 9600 block of Whetstone Drive.A Montgomery County firefighter who sustained non-life-threatening injuries was also taken to the hospital following the house fire, according to Fire and EMS spokesperson Pete Piringer.Piringer said that three people were rescued in the hours that followed. One person has been hospitalized with critical injuries; all others are expected to survive the fire.Three family dogs also died following the fire, Piringer said.Roughly 75 firefighters responded to the blaze. It isn’t clear what caused the fire, but Piringer said it likely started in a screened-in porch area at the back of the house.It appears the home had functioning smoke alarms, Piringer said, and at least two of the people inside heard the alarms.Firefighters are exp...

Macron incite les Européens à ne pas se penser en “suiveurs” des Etats-Unis

Published Mon, 23 Dec 2024 13:05:12 GMT

Macron incite les Européens à ne pas se penser en “suiveurs” des Etats-Unis To read this story in English, click here.Pour Emmanuel Macron, l’Europe doit réduire sa dépendance à l’égard des États-Unis et éviter d’être entraînée dans une éventuelle confrontation avec la Chine au sujet de Taïwan.Le président français s’est exprimé sur le sujet lors d’un entretien accordé à POLITICO et à deux autres médias français dans l’avion qui le ramenait d’une visite d’État de trois jours en Chine, quelques heures avant que Pékin ne lance des exercices militaires de grande ampleur autour de Taïwan.Prenant la parole après avoir passé environ six heures avec le président chinois Xi Jinping au cours de son voyage, Emmanuel Macron est revenu sur son concept fétiche d'”autonomie stratégique” pour l’Europe — dans laquelle la France jouerait, cela va sans dire, un rôle de premier plan. L’objectif : faire de l’Union européenne une “troisième superpuissance”.Pour le président, “le gran...

Europe must resist pressure to become ‘America’s followers,’ says Macron

Published Mon, 23 Dec 2024 13:05:12 GMT

Europe must resist pressure to become ‘America’s followers,’ says Macron Cet article est aussi disponible en français.ABOARD COTAM UNITÉ (FRANCE’S AIR FORCE ONE) — Europe must reduce its dependency on the United States and avoid getting dragged into a confrontation between China and the U.S. over Taiwan, French President Emmanuel Macron said in an interview on his plane back from a three-day state visit to China.Speaking with POLITICO and two French journalists after spending around six hours with Chinese President Xi Jinping during his trip, Macron emphasized his pet theory of “strategic autonomy” for Europe, presumably led by France, to become a “third superpower.”He said “the great risk” Europe faces is that it “gets caught up in crises that are not ours, which prevents it from building its strategic autonomy,” while flying from Beijing to Guangzhou, in southern China, aboard COTAM Unité, France’s Air Force One.Xi Jinping and the Chinese Communist Party have enthusiastically endorsed Macron’s concept of strategic autonomy and Chinese o...

Six community colleges to offer tuition-free education for all Boston residents

Published Mon, 23 Dec 2024 13:05:12 GMT

Six community colleges to offer tuition-free education for all Boston residents  All Boston residents are now eligible for tuition-free schooling at six community colleges — regardless of their age, income or immigration status — under a new plan announced by the city government.City officials announced the expansion of its “Tuition-Free Community College Plan” in a Wednesday news release.The program provides funding for up to three years of tuition and fees at six partner institutions, according to the news release. The funding also covers up to $250 per semester in related costs, like textbooks and transportation, and debt up to $2,500 for “students with an outstanding balance at a partner college that is preventing a student from re-enrolling at that college.”Bostonians will be eligible for free tuition at Benjamin Franklin Cummings Institute of Technology, Bunker Hill Community College, Massasoit Community College, MassBay Community College, Roxbury Community College and Urban College of Boston, according ...

Howie Carr: Meet John Pigsley, AKA the Pigman, the perfect poster boy for the MBTA

Published Mon, 23 Dec 2024 13:05:12 GMT

Howie Carr: Meet John Pigsley, AKA the Pigman, the perfect poster boy for the MBTA Behold, John P. Pigsley, the 300-pound poster boy for the modern MBTA.Seldom has a name fitted a defendant more perfectly than “John P. Pigsley.”Gaze upon Pigsley’s perp-walk photographs, taken as he waddled out of the federal courthouse Wednesday in his triple-XL tee shirt.If you were a Hollywood director filming a movie about the MBTA, and you asked Central Casting to send over a bloated, corrupt hack who symbolized the endemic corruption of the T, John P. Pigsley would show up on the set.And, if you believe the federal indictment against him, millions of dollars worth of stuff would soon start disappearing from your movie set.How MBTA is John P. Pigsley?They say that if you have a lemon, you should make lemonade. And so my modest proposal for the MBTA is to use this latest embarrassment as a recruiting tool for their wretchedly catastrophic hackerama.In a few months, I could imagine driving the Expressway or the Pike and seeing Pigsley’s dissipated mug staring down at me from ele...

ASK IRA: Can the Heat’s success continue against the Hawks’ Trae Young?

Published Mon, 23 Dec 2024 13:05:12 GMT

ASK IRA: Can the Heat’s success continue against the Hawks’ Trae Young? Q: When does the Heat’s luck run out against Trae Young? – Nathan.A: If it’s luck, the way the Heat largely have been able to contain Trae Young, then, yes, there could be a moment of reckoning with a progression to the mean when the Hawks arrive for Tuesday’s play-in game. But if it is a detailed system that requires all five defenders to be in lockstep, then there should be hope of the one more shutdown required for the Heat to advance out of Tuesday’s play-in game against the Hawks and into the playoffs. Yes, Trae can go off at any moment, but part of the Hawks’ roster overhaul has been to get enough support that Trae doesn’t have to do it all. So it remains nearly as crucial that the Heat contain Dejounte Murray and the Hawks’ other contributors. Otherwise, trying to match the Hawks point for point, whether Trae is on or not, is a dangerous game to play, particularly in the play-in round.Q: Should Erik Spoelstra play the guys at le...

NFL notes: Is it possible for Bill Belichick and Mac Jones to mend fences?

Published Mon, 23 Dec 2024 13:05:12 GMT

NFL notes: Is it possible for Bill Belichick and Mac Jones to mend fences? Not long ago, Robert Kraft told me part of his job was to be a peacekeeper of sorts, and “keep it together” when it came to himself, his head coach and starting quarterback.At the time, the Patriots owner was speaking about Bill Belichick and Tom Brady, and how his relationship with them was like a marriage. He was a pseudo counselor, making sure they could all co-exist and find a sense of harmony and kumbaya between them.Kraft managed to keep that union intact for 20 years mostly because it behooved him to do so given all the success they enjoyed together. But eventually, there was a divorce. Brady left the group, believing Belichick no longer wanted him based on the type of contracts he kept getting offered year after year.We’re heading into Year 3 with Mac Jones and, already, it’s gotten messy. There are rumblings of unrest all around and signs there could be another divorce as none of the Big Three (Kraft, Belichick, Jones) seem to be on the same page.Talk about a Bermuda Triang...

Boston Marathon bombing survivor Meghan Zipin finds light after tragedy; first book to be released on 10-year anniversary

Published Mon, 23 Dec 2024 13:05:12 GMT

Boston Marathon bombing survivor Meghan Zipin finds light after tragedy; first book to be released on 10-year anniversary As she struggled to fall asleep, Meghan Zipin started writing notes on her phone of what she remembered from the Boston Marathon bombings and the aftermath of such devastation.Those notes became prompts she used to write poetry from — a coping mechanism that Zipin turned to along her road to healing.Zipin crossed the finish line on April 15, 2013, just moments before “the spectacular marathon day” turned Boylston Street into what she described as a “war zone.” Physically, she said, she feels lucky because the bombs didn’t injure her, but the emotional pain and “survivor’s guilt” took a toll.When Zipin reached 15 poems, she said, it clicked that the collection could turn into a book.So it did.Zipin’s first published book First Light is set to be released on April 15, the 10-year anniversary of the bombings. Readers will be walked through the time of the bombings to when Zipin spoke to bomber Dzhokhar Tsarnaev at trial, with the collection of 37 poems highlighting her experiences with...

South Africa police say prison escapee arrested in Tanzania

Published Mon, 23 Dec 2024 13:05:12 GMT

South Africa police say prison escapee arrested in Tanzania JOHANNESBURG (AP) — A South African convicted murderer who faked his death to escape from prison has been arrested in Tanzania following a two-week manhunt, police have announced.South African officials are going to Tanzania Sunday to begin to extradite Thabo Bester, 35, dubbed the “Facebook Rapist” as he used the social media platform to lure at least two women he was convicted of raping. He was also found guilty of killing one. Bester was sentenced to life imprisonment in 2012 and it was reported in May last year that he died in a fire in his prison cell.However, reports surfaced of him being seen in Johannesburg and an investigation including DNA samples showed that the body found burned beyond recognition in the cell was not his.Two weeks ago police said they were chasing Bester and last week they raided a luxurious home he was believed to have been renting in a posh Johannesburg suburb.Bester was apprehended with his girlfriend Nandipha Magudumana, a well-known celebrity doctor...